These are my personal musings about the sometimes strange and frequently wonderful world of libertine sex and the tale of my journey into it. All references to living individuals are entirely anonymised. This blog is based entirely on my opinions and experiences and makes no claims to be representative of the whole swinging community. I hope you find something here to entertain you, amuse you, titillate you and perhaps even make you think. While sex appears to pervade our culture more than ever before, I believe that even today nowhere are we as unfree and tangled up as when it comes to the full erotic enjoyment of our bodies, hearts and minds. So if I manage to provoke some thought, I'll be glad. If you use this page only to help a sneaky orgasm along the way - enjoy!

Sunday, 31 January 2010

What is a slut anyway?

According to the online etymological dictionary, the first record of the word "slut" appears around 1400 AD, where it is thought to refer to a "dirty, slovenly, untidy woman". Over time the word came to mean a woman of "loose morals", i.e. a promiscuous woman. Like all good guttural four letter words its origin is likely Germanic. If you want to to use words of sweet romance, go with the Romance languages, if you're talking about joyful, gutsy physicality and a bit of dirt, it's the Germans you want.  So why is it, that some of us are choosing to reclaim this old derogatory word?  As modern informed women we are all supposed to be caring, as well as assertive, successful in our careers as well as doting mothers, always self-reflective, excelling in our communication, we are supposed to "make love" rather than fuck... The slut however - essentially a free agent, at home in her body, accepting of her needs and as messy as life itself. You just have to love her!